PRE-MARITAL $EX AND ITS CONSEQUENCES

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Today I want to dwell comprehensively on premarital sex. Though, people don’t like talking about it may be it’s because they feel guilty. Parents are afraid to talk about it; teachers felt it is not an ideal subject to talk about. The truth is always a very bitter pill to swallow especially when it concerns us. They fail to realize that if they don’t talk about it to their children, they will certainly fall victim because $ex is everywhere. They sell it. It is in music, home videos, schools etc. societies is full of young girls and boys having multiple $ex partners all in the name of boy/girl friends in exchange for pleasure, money and other materials things because they lack adequate information on the subject matter and at that there are many more people with STDs, more single parents, more unwanted pregnancies and more sufferings. Without any further addendum, let’s proceed in a marathon base by looking at some basic terms to help us build our foundation on the subject.

Pre-marital: Taking place or existing before marriage or occurring before marriage

$ex: It an act of intimacy normally between a matured male and female, whereby the male $exual organ is inserted into the female sexual organ (virginal) and after thrusting, seminal fluid is ejaculated or released from the inserted erected male organ into the virginal. It is preceded by kissing and touching of some $exual sensitive zones like the breast, thighs and buttocks etc.

ACT OF $EX

During the act of $ex, there is usually a transfer of blood via ejaculation and blood signifies life. When a man sleeps with a woman, there is transfer of blood (life) via ejaculation of the sperm into the woman and also from the woman into the man. Through this process, there is an exchange of sperm, blood or life. After the act the partners involve carries an atom of each other ‘life’ on their inside. It is this transfer of blood that makes $ex more than an act but a covenant.

As soon as a man penetrates a woman especially for the first time, the woman sheds blood. $ex is more than having fun or cooling your urge. It is covenants you have entered in the spirit realm which puts part of your life into someone and makes you carry a part of somebody.

Usually, there is always a feeling of guilt, hatred, self pity, pain, regret, bitterness and the feeling of been used after having $ex outside God’s approval. Premarital sex is the corruption of the whole body. Lie is a sin but it is done outside your body. Ring its self doesn’t join couples together but sex (Gen 2:24, 1cor 6:16). Sex is the binding force in marriage. Sex is not free and sex is not cheap, is a high price. That two minutes pleasure is too expensive it can affect the rest of your life. Don’t be careless.

CONSEQUENCES

# It breed other sins: $exual sins is a killer of destiny, it makes your life to stink and sink as its open way for other sins e.g. murder, lies, hatred etc.

# Its separate you from God: Sexual sins is committed with the whole body and as such it makes one impure before God, when you fornicate God’s spirit step out for demons to step in.

# Closed heavens: When your heaven closed, you struggle spiritually because your spiritual antenna is not active.

# It’s a demonic weapon: It is a weapon used by the devil to order you out of the ring. It is an arrest warrant to kick you out of the palace. Sex opens the door for demonic possession, exchange of destinies, transference of spirits, scattered souls, etc.

# It break relationships: Pre and extra marital $ex have wretched most relationship. Sex ruins relationship, breaks family, mess up our society. How will you feel to call off a relationship you have built over the years just because of one moment of uncontrollable madness?

# Lack of trust: Once any marriage is built on pre-marital $ex, your spouse will not trust you even after marriage. When there’s no trust, the relationship will rust. You don’t buy trust, you earn it over time haven been tested. If a girl opens up so cheaply to a guy before marriage, after marriage she will be a prime suspect because she has been doing it before and the man will not feel safe.

# Hurts and pains: Having $ex with the wrong person always results to hurts and pains especially the female will feel used and abused and its affect you physically, spiritually and emotionally.

# It brings God’s judgment: you know what that means. Until you have a proper understanding of this subject matter, you cannot stand.

Premarital $ex breed troubled marriages, domestic violence, divorce, infidelity, rape abuse, incest, child trafficking and prostitution. Age at which people marry has risen; age at which they first have intercourse has been falling. Saddening enough is the fact that our social and moral values and standards as a society and people have continued to fall over the decades.

Reasons Why Young People Engage in Illicit $ex includes:

Peer pressure, romance, infatuations which they called love the need to feel cool and be accepted without adequate information. Economic survival, early child marriage, rape, domestic sexually violence. But there is no excuse that’s excusable you to fornicate except on the platform of rape when you are force.

What they don’t tell you about illicit $ex

1. Sex is a beautiful thing for marriage people.

2. Sex between unmarried people is a sin that can bring judgment. Sex is for our enjoyment not for us to suffer. 1cor 6:13-15. Premarital sex is the corruption of the whole body. Lie is a sin but sex is done outside your body.

3. Ring its self doesn’t join couple together but sex. Sex is the binding force in marriage. Sex is not free and sex is not cheap, is a high price. That two minutes pleasure is too expensive it can affect the rest of your life. Don’t be careless.

4. Sex immorality can affect your marriage. They have discovered that if you have been involved in sexual immorality, the possibility of you committing adultery is higher because you have been playing the game before marriage. Virgin fines it easy to stay faithful in marriage.

5. Sexual immorality can destroy your destiny pro 5:7-10, pro 7:24-27.

6. Sex can open the door for negative spirit.

7. $ex is so addictive. Is like drug, it is because it touches your whole body because of the pleasure involved. It is easier to tempt someone that had sex before to have sex again than a virgin; because it opens your body.

8. A child can disorganize your whole life.

$ex is the greatest cause of heartbreaks. If you begin to have sex before marriage you will weaken the relationship with the one you do indeed marry.

9. $ex makes two people to become one flesh (soul, spirit and body ties).

10. $ex doesn’t bring him closer or keep him and sex doesn’t transmit to love. Sex cannot make someone that doesn’t love before to love and sex can also make someone that loved you before develop hatred for you. There is nothing good in premarital. Those of you that eager to get a boyfriend, listen carefully if you are not ready to marry don’t start a relationship. You enter relationship because you are ready to marry. I need attention; a boy doesn’t give attention for free, doesn’t give affection for free. An average girl is looking for a boy that will love her. Boys don’t come for relationship looking for intimacy, boys come for relationship for sex but girls come for relationship for intimacy, hug me, kiss me etc. a boy can sleep with a prostitute. Boys are sexually driven; that’s why they don’t have to love you before they have sex with you. 2sam 13:1. Boyfriend relationship is all about sleeping with each other. It brings regret, hatred, resentment, guilt.

11. Condon doesn’t always work. The best way to avoid premarital sex is abstinence.

12. If you have made any sexual mistake, don't remain there, get up and move on the positive side.

Yes, save it!

Conclusively, your virginity, whether you’re male or female is one of the things we treasure the most. Once it’s gone you can’t get it back, so it is important to save it for your wedding night so that you won’t have any regrets. Preserving yourself can also make your spouse feel much appreciated and safe.

What do you do on your wedding night when you have already experienced what God has created to be between a husband and a wife?

If you do decide to have sex before marriage then what is the surprise and fun of marriage? What does "you may now kiss the bride" really mean if you have already gone much further than this. Not to mention, say you did have sex with the wrong one, now when this relationship splits it will have a dramatic emotional pain on you. Also if you begin to have sex with multiple women/men before marriage do you believe you will just be able to stop once you've found the right one and have been married for several years and have trained your body to be "ready" for someone new? Why create the bad habit?
You can live sexually pure. What the world tells you is that everybody is doing it. It is a lie. There are many young people who are virgins.

True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.

If you have never committed fornication, God has a simple message for you—DON’T. (Eph. 5:3) If you are committing fornication, God also has a simple message for you—STOP. (Acts 15:29).

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