PRE-MARITAL $EX AND ITS CONSEQUENCES

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Today I want to dwell comprehensively on premarital sex. Though, people don’t like talking about it may be it’s because they feel guilty. Parents are afraid to talk about it; teachers felt it is not an ideal subject to talk about. The truth is always a very bitter pill to swallow especially when it concerns us. They fail to realize that if they don’t talk about it to their children, they will certainly fall victim because $ex is everywhere. They sell it. It is in music, home videos, schools etc. societies is full of young girls and boys having multiple $ex partners all in the name of boy/girl friends in exchange for pleasure, money and other materials things because they lack adequate information on the subject matter and at that there are many more people with STDs, more single parents, more unwanted pregnancies and more sufferings. Without any further addendum, let’s proceed in a marathon base by looking at some basic terms to help us build our foundation on the subject.

Pre-marital: Taking place or existing before marriage or occurring before marriage

$ex: It an act of intimacy normally between a matured male and female, whereby the male $exual organ is inserted into the female sexual organ (virginal) and after thrusting, seminal fluid is ejaculated or released from the inserted erected male organ into the

EVERYBODY WILL NEVER LIKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE

You may find yourself asking the question – “Why don’t people like me?” Well, because they don’t have to.

As much as we hate to accept it, people have the free will to like or dislike us. No one is required by law (spiritual or human) to like you. The problem is that most of us can’t wrap our heads around this notion. Our egos come into play and we start desiring for everyone to like us.

We automatically feel something is wrong with us when someone doesn’t like us. And since most of us hate the discomfort that comes with being disliked, we may feel the need to avoid it by overcompensating to please others or pretending to agree with certain beliefs we don’t find true.

It’s OKAY that some people don’t like you. In all honesty, you should expect it. If everyone likes you, that’s a problem. There are over 7 billion people on this earth. 7 billion people from different backgrounds, with different belief systems, and different priorities in life. The only way everyone would be

EIGHT REASONS RELATIONSHIP ARE BROKEN

The other day seven year relationship was dissolved and the young girl was devastated, hurt and disappointed. She was able to regain herself after she was introduced to a pastor who counseled her. Hope deferred maketh the heart sick, but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life. Pro 13:12. Broken vows and covenants are very common in relationships between opposite sex nowadays. One of the major causes of disengagement is infatuation or lust. People claim to be in love without knowing what they are loving, by the time reality dawn on them, they awake and disengage themselves from such relationship. Some ladies have gotten series of broken relationship, as such are afraid to be involved in any other relationship.

Causes of broken relationship

THE EBOLA RELATIONSHIP AND THE CURE

Someone sent this to my mail box and when I read it I found it informative and I decided to share it with you on my blog. Please it and make the necessary corrections in your relationship.
During the time of the deadly Ebola outbreak, I wasn't surprised to find the virus making headlines on every news media, status updates, tweets, and other fancy social networks, because as Nigerians we are always the last to know, yet the first to panic, call on our ancestors in the village, and alert loved ones to wake up at 2am and bath with salt water. The funniest part of the rush what that people where more than willing to chew kuli kuli; 35 times while dancing naked around a mango tree if a chief priest confirms it as a cure for the disease. But then I ask myself, are we not already plagued with a disease that is far more life threatening than the almighty Ebola virus? Or is there any other virus worse than the UNGODLY RELATIONSHIPS that young people keep in the name of love? I think not. Why then is no one taking caution? Why is no one bathing with salt water in fear? Or am I seeking answers to that which we already know? Oh yes! We have gotten too comfortable with these poisonous relationships that even when we see a good one it is difficult to recognize it. We have gotten so carried away by its temporary merits of lust,

HOW TO BUILD A LOVING & LASTING RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT REGRET

Last week I talked about the three kind of love that tells if someone truly loves you or not and I believed that in your own way you can differentiate them. Today I will be talking about how you can build your relationship.
Like any organic system, a human relationship is subject to entropy-meaning that it is always in a state of decay. With little effort you can contract the tendency for your love relationship to fall apart. Create psychological intimacy; share your most experiences and deepest feelings with the person you love. Let the purpose of the relationship be known and all your intentions. Talk daily about your impression of the people and events you encounter. Reveal your most important life goals; share your reactions to the triumphs and failures you experiences. Maintain physical intimacy only: like hug, peck and short kiss in private; hold hands in public. Please take note “Don’t introduce $ex because if you do,

SIX REASONS TO AVOID PREMARITAL $EX

#Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.

#It creates a spiritual/emotional bond without commitment—this only breeds resentment, bitterness, and the feeling of being used. It says something like this, “I don’t love you enough to commit to you, but I love you enough to use you.

#It destroys trust—the best way to have trust in a marriage is to stay pure before you get married. Learning to be committed to Christ (in purity) is the best way to learn to be committed to a spouse.

#Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.

#It devalues the future intimacy of your marriage—intimacy is “just the two of us.” Premarital relationships destroy that before it even happens.

#Premarital $ex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.

If you have never committed fornication, God has a simple message for you—DON’T. (Eph. 5:3) If you are committing fornication, God also has a simple message for you—STOP. (Acts 15:29)

ITS MEANT FOR TOTAL COMPANIONSHIP

Premarital $ex is considered immoral as its consequences leads to other immoral behavior and also breaking of the law. When people engage in illicit $ex, it will lead to unwanted pregnancies and children born out of wedlock. This leads to mental and emotional stress for couples who are not ready to bear the responsibility of having children. Abortion is murder. Sex has no point outside of marriage. It is not the way you make friends or tell if you have good friends. You can't judge somebody through sex. Many premarital lovers aren't responsible for their actions through sex. My 1st reason is that your virginity is a special thing. Once you lose it you can NOT get it back, and some people out there are dirty people, and might just want to use you for sex, and then break up with you, and you will be shattered. But when you get married you know that your husband/wife is not going to use you for sex, but because they love you and care for you it shows that they won’t use for sex. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.